Salam Ma'al Hijrah 1431 to all. Its Awal Muharram, the January of the Islamic calendar. There's no fireworks and Auld Lang Synes but the day is significant to Muslims none the less.
Sabrina, my youngest informed me, that Noriman (her special bf) used to only know of his Islamic day of birth - which falls on 1 Muharram. How about that? Happy Birthday Iman!!
Now, I digress. What's the title all about?
Well, I told you in my previous post, how an Internet junkie I've become of late, right? One of the things I do when online is to check my emails and forum. I belong to the TKC email group as well as a member of the Budak TMS Class of 63 - 73 forum. That's what I do every time I am online. Its a must. I check my email group and forum. TKS also has an email address, but its rather dead.
Let's go back, one step, ok?
So what is TKS, TMS, and TKC? Maybe you all know what TKC is. It is the acronymn for Tunku Kurshiah College. Its like the Eaton schoolfor girls. Malay girls. Creme-de-la-creme. Clever girls who excelled academically (so why they selected me??) in public schools all over Malaysia, hand selected, leave behind their family and friends to attend boarding school. It's a prestigious school with excellent academic records, giving birth to many public figures like, Datin Rosmah, Datuk Sharizat Jalil, Datuk Paduka Marina Mahathir, to name a few,
I started schooling in '69. It was Sekolah B. Kuala Pilah. A 100% malay school, in terms of population and lingua-franca. In Standard 1, I was top of the class. But, I cried to be transfered to an English school. So in '70 I went to Tunku Kurshiah School (TKS), primary, then, to TKS (secondary) until my Form 3. Sekolah B, was a co-ed school but TKS (primary & secondary) were all girls school. I said was because, TKS primary is now co-ed although TKS secondary maintained to be the only all girls school.I did fairly well in both TKS but not top of the class. There were many pupils from Chinese family who were much cleverer than I. But at one time, in Std 3, I think, I was in the top 10. After that, I yo-yoed from top 10 to just off the scale, but never more than top 11. After LCE (PMR now), it was bottom 10 for me up to my MCE (SPM). In TKC, I couldn't compete with the brains of the country, Chinese or no Chinese. But one bright spark, in my entire school life, was when, a group of us TKS girls, we sent to study pure science in Tunku Muhamad School (TMS), a neighbouring school meant for boys!! We had a culture schock in the beginning, but built a platonic albeit healthy friendship that lasted a life time. I was in TMS for only 2 months but I made many new (boy) friends there. I was offered to study in TKC soon after. I stayed for two years but made no friends. What an irony!
I made life-long friends in TKS and TMS. We had re-unions and I even became a committe member of TKS old girls'association. Its TKC I have problem with.
On reflection, I think I made a mistake going to TKC. I missed my friends from TKS and TMS. On school breaks, I kept going back to my old alma mater to meet up with old friends. I had no friends in TKC. Its difficult, I tried but I just wasn't able to make friends. I see that happening in all the schools I have taught in and in SSS too. There are some misfits, and I emphatise.
I thank my TKS and TMS formative school years for making me who I am today. TKC, was a nightmare that, try as I might, but cannot seem to forget. The former two schools, were multi-racial. I developed "colour blindness" in these schools. Until now, the friendship we built, three and half decades ago, remain strong. If you want to see a sample of "1 Malaysia" just come to our reunions or teh tarik sessions.
TKC is an elite school, building elites who tend to remain elitist well after they leave school. Many become Datins after marrying Datu's or Datuks who were more often than not, were schooled in another elite Eaton - Malay College Kuala Kangsar (MCKK). You see, back in the '70s when the New Economic Policy was introduced, our generation, left the nest to study overseas under various scholarships. In the process, the two elite schools, set free their prodigies, only for them to meet, fall in love and get married. I myself, married one MCOBA boy. We now have 4 girls, none of whom wanted to go to boarding school, thankfully. I wouldn't have let them anyway. Yes, many TKCians and MCOBAians went out to be successful, contributing citizens, but when I return for TKC reunions, I feel a great regret for being a TKCian. So much for moulding the person. In my down moments, I can't help asking "what if" questions.
I enter the TMS forum and I feel the camarederie and warmth. I enter the TKC email group, I shiver from the cold.
Que sera sera.